Victim vs Creator Mindset Victim MindsetCircumstances control me. Others are responsible for how I feel. I am stuck. Creator MindsetI choose how to respond. I own my experience. I can always take some action. TurnForPeace.com The victim/creator mindset is fundamental to how we live our lives. Are we victims and blame others for our actions,…
The Interpersonal Gap IntentionWhat you meant to communicate. The message you encoded and sent. ImpactWhat they actually received. Often very different from what you intended. TurnForPeace.com Have you ever said something that was misunderstood, and no amount of clarification made it better? We all use verbal and nonverbal cues to convey our thoughts, feelings, and…
Suppressing vs Expressing Emotions SuppressingFeelings go underground. Leak out as sarcasm, withdrawal, or sudden explosion. Expressing ClearlyName feelings honestly and specifically. Gives others real information to work with. TurnForPeace.com You know, those moments when words alone aren’t enough to convey how we really feel. Usually it’s our actions that speak louder than words. As the…
Responsibility and Choice Victim StanceIt happened to me. Others are responsible for my feelings. No power to change. Creator StanceI choose how to respond. I own my experience. I have power to change. TurnForPeace.com Agency or the “power to choose” is something we are all born with. We can make choices that empower us and…
Parroting vs Paraphrasing ParrotingRepeating exact words back. Shows you heard. Useful for checking facts. ParaphrasingRestating in your own words. Shows you understood. Builds real trust. TurnForPeace.com There’s a huge problem with how we listen. If you tell someone your email, they usually repeat it to make sure they heard it correctly. This happens in radio…