If you’re looking for personal growth, self-differentiation is the guiding principle to balance autonomy and nurturing meaningful connections. Self-differentiation is the defining characteristic of a good leaders. It’s characterized by intentional growth, where individuals strive to understand their place in their families, take responsibility for their lives, and cultivate autonomy while deepening intimacy with others….
Lack of clarity about decision making is the dominant cause of mistrust and low productivity. You can increase trust by being clear about who makes the decision and by understanding that there are different decision-making styles, all of which are okay. Effective decision-making is a crucial skill in both our personal and professional lives. While…
You’ve said this word a million times, and you’re not wrong, misunderstandings happen all the time. The interpersonal gap in communication is a real thing, and bridging the gap can help by using your words differently to clarify your intent. A better way to say “you misunderstood” is by omitting these two words altogether and…
Have you ever watched a news or political debate and felt frustrated by the poor communication, blame, and judgement toward one another. We all make judgments of other’s behaviors, but our interpretation of others is not always right. Behavior description is a basic way to improve communication and bridge the interpersonal gap. Since we all…
The victim/creator mindset is fundamental to how we live our lives. Are we victims and blame others for our actions, or do we see things from a creative point of view and become more self-aware to make better choices? We’ve all been in the shoes of both the creator and the victim. When we…
Have you ever said something that was misunderstood, and no amount of clarification made it better? We all use verbal and nonverbal cues to convey our thoughts, feelings, and intentions, but a lot of the time things get misinterpreted or lost in translation. This can be due to differences in personal experiences, cultural backgrounds, language…
You know, those moments when words alone aren’t enough to convey how we really feel. Usually it’s our actions that speak louder than words. As the Psychologist John Wallen suggests, it’s not just the words we choose that convey our feelings but also the subtle nuances of our tone, gestures, and facial expressions. Every day…
Agency or the “power to choose” is something we are all born with. We can make choices that empower us and others, or we can make choices that enslave us and put us in bondage. That’s the mindset that we choose when we are the victim or the creator of our circumstances as discussed in…
There’s a huge problem with how we listen. If you tell someone your email, they usually repeat it to make sure they heard it correctly. This happens in radio communication or when sharing a string of numbers. But if you tell someone a more complex statement, they usually agree or disagree without checking what you…